– Taoist Wisdom for Letting Go
Feeling overwhelmed by the future? Constantly worrying about things you can’t control? If you answered yes, then you’re not alone. Life can be unpredictable, and our natural instinct is to try and hold on, to plan and control every outcome. But what if the key to inner peace lies in accepting that everything is, to some extent, out of control?
This is a core tenet of Taoism, an ancient Chinese philosophy that emphasizes living in harmony with the natural order of things, the Tao. Taoists believe that stressing about what we can’t control is a recipe for misery. Here are a few Taoist antidotes to worry, with examples from everyday life:
- Stop Chasing Happiness: Imagine yourself at a crowded amusement park, desperately seeking the most thrilling ride. This relentless pursuit of happiness, according to Taoism, is exhausting and ultimately futile. Just like that ride line, happiness is fleeting. Instead, Taoism suggests cultivating contentment by appreciating the simple moments, like the warm sun on your face or a delicious cup of tea.
Focus on What You Can Control:
You can’t control the weather, but you can choose how to dress. Similarly, you can’t control what others say or do, but you can control your own reaction. Focusing on your thoughts, actions, and how you respond to situations empowers you and reduces anxiety.
- Let Go of Attachments: We often cling to things – possessions, relationships, even specific outcomes. This attachment creates fear of loss, a major source of worry. Taoism teaches us to loosen our grip, and to accept that change is inevitable. Think of a river – constantly flowing, ever-changing, yet always water. By letting go of attachments, we can flow with life’s current.
- Embrace the Power of “Wu Wei”: Literally translated as “without action,” wu wei isn’t about laziness. It’s about acting in harmony with the natural flow of things, like a skilled dancer moving effortlessly with the music. When faced with a challenge, instead of forcing a solution, wu wei suggests stepping back, observing, and taking action that aligns with the situation.
Taoism doesn’t ask us to ignore problems. It simply suggests a different approach. By accepting the inherent uncertainty of life and focusing on what we can control, we can find a sense of calm and inner peace, even when the world around us feels chaotic.
So next time you feel the worry monster creeping in, take a deep breath, remember the Tao, and let go.